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What does it mean to be frozen?
But there is away out.
From the book...
"Watching Frozen reminded me that I wasn’t always so cold and cynical. The movie awakened my childlike aspiration for freedom to express my internal world with passionate creativity. As a young, empathetic girl, I desperately wanted to connect deeply with others and have an extraordinary impact. But it seemed that the only way to secure those things would be to gain and maintain respect from others. I was sure I could accomplish that goal by being the “best me“ I could be.-Andrea Joy Wenburg, Unfrozen
So I set out to be good, strong and competent. Little did I know, but my determination to earn respect for those qualities became the very thing that drove a wedge between me and the meaningful relationships I so desperately craved.
As the years went by, the ideal self I constructed was mercifully dismantled in phases, and, bit by bit, the realization dawned that in protecting my image, I had paralyzed myself from releasing the beautiful power I had to offer the world.
The day I saw the movie, I was still harboring pain and bitterness. My heart was still frozen. But I felt less alone as I watched Elsa struggle to reconcile the power inside of her with the needs of the people around her. And I began to believe that Elsa wasn’t the only one who needed to “let it go.”
I was cold. It didn’t come out all of the time. Of course, I shared as much warmth as I could with the outside world by engaging with people in heart to heart conversations and mustering up as much kindness as possible. But when I was warm to the outside world, it was like I depleted my resources so when I got home I had very little warmth to give my family.
It made sense, in a way. They asked more from me than anyone else. When I was around them I felt like a failure because they needed things from me I wasn’t sure I could give.
So every request for me to meet their needs felt like a neon sign flashing “FAILURE! FAILURE! FAILURE!” I knew I shouldn’t resent my family for highlighting my weaknesses, but that knowledge only made me feel shame for the fact that I often did.
It was a spiral of self-centered self-hatred and bitterness.
Your heart is worth it.
Your frozen heart is worth mining.
"Frequently Asked Questions"
Absolutely! I recommend that you view the videos ahead of time to determine if they will make sense to your daughter and if she seems ready for discussion.
Reach out to the Facebook group. Do not share private or personal details but I may be able to offer general advice to help you move forward. Second, please encourage group members to reach out to a spiritual guide, counselor or psychologist for additional help.
Absolutely! I'm hopeful this will be a helpful supplemental resource for counselors, pastors and spiritual directors. I definitely encourage you to watch the videos before sharing them with clients.
I highly recommend the discussion guide be used in very small groups of 2-4 people, guided by an adult.
I encourage all adults who use the videos to sign up individually so you each have access to the private Facebook group. This also allows me to send you additional resources in the future.